- out on time together. Let's be honest: you mucked up this relationship from the beginning. Not only did you go into a sexual situation Beautiful lady want sex College at work, but with a you knew was married. I don't know what your reasons were for throwing caution to the wind, but it's high time you took ownership for your actions and it for what it was: wrong. Let's Meet, Talk, Laugh SWM. Like whirly-girl said, give this guy a good 6 months to a year with no contact. If you still work together, I suppose it's impossible, but look at it this way: you never really had a "relationship" with the guy. It was based on lust and excitement with doing something that was wrong. I've even heard about couples who, like your situation, get together once the divorce is final and the spark disappears. For some, it's the thrill of the and obtaining what is forbidden that makes them feel alive.